In-person in Jakarta and Bali. Online worldwide.
Couple therapy
Some couples arrive in crisis. Others arrive before it gets there. What they share is a sense that something has stopped working and the usual tools are not enough. This work goes deeper than communication skills.
WHO THIS IS FOR
The patterns that keep repeating. Not just the arguments.
Most people arrive with several things tangled together. These are the areas we work on most often.
The same argument, cycling
Different trigger each time, same fight. Neither of you is wrong. Both of you are stuck.
Distance and disconnection
You share a life but not much else. Politeness has replaced intimacy without either of you choosing it.
One pursue, one withdraw
The more one reaches, the more the other pulls back. A pattern that exhausts both people and solves nothing.
Rupture
Infidelity, a betrayal, a period of crisis. You want to rebuild but do not know if it is possible or where to start.
Two high achievers, one relationship
Both of you are capable and driven. The relationships keeps coming last, and it is starting to show.
Wanting more than coexistence
Nothing is dramatically wrong. But you sense the relationship could be more than it currently is.
HOW IT WORKS, EVERYTIME
Starting Therapy. What to Expect.
You have probably read the books. Maybe tried therapy before. You know what you should do. But in the moment, when it matters most, something else takes over. That is what we work with here.
Three phases. Each one builds on the last.
01
See the pattern clearly
Not just the argument. The cycle underneath it. What you are both actually trying to say, and why it keeps coming out wrong.
Gottman • RLT
02
Work with the parts that take over
There is a part of you that knows better. And a part that, when triggered, forgets it all. We work with the part that forgets, so it stops running the relationship.
IFS • RLT
03
Build something that actually holds
Skills and new patterns that work because the parts that used to resist them are no longer in the way.
Gottman • IFS • RLT
IFS, RLT, and Gottman for couples.
Each method is chosen because it reaches what standard talk therapy cannot. Together they address the relational pattern, the individual parts driving it, and the skills that make new behaviour stick.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
Terry Real's method is built for couples who have learned to perform rather than connect. Direct and confronting, it gets to the root of adaptive patterns faster than most approaches for high-achieving couples.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Helps each partner understand the parts of themselves that show up in conflict. The part that shuts down. The part that attacks. When both partners understand their own internal system, the relationship changes profoundly.
Gottman Method
Research-based tools for understanding conflict patterns, building friendship and trust, and creating shared meaning. Gives couples a clear map of their dynamic and concrete skills that hold beyond the sessions.
THE PROGRAMMES
Two formats, both begin the same way.
Every couple begins with a Couple Workbook Assessment completed together one week
before the intensive. Nothing starts cold and every session counts.
Exploring
7 hours
Designed for those wanting a starting point to understand what is keeping them stuck in their challenges.
PRE THERAPY
Couple Workbook Assessment
2 hours (1 week before intensive)
DAY 1
Couple Data Gathering Session
2.5 hours
DAY 2
Couple Therapy Intensive Workshop
2.5 hours
IDR 9,600,000 Jakarta or online
Deepening
13 hours
Best for clients seeking a sustained process for deeper repair and long-term transformation.
PRE THERAPY
Couple Workbook Assessment
2 hours (1 week before intensive)
DAY 1
Couple Data Gathering Session
2 hours
Individual Therapy for Partner #1
1.5 hours
Individual Therapy for Partner #2
1.5 hours
DAY 2
Couple Therapy Intensive Workshop
5 hours
FOLLOW UP
Couple Therapy Check-In
1.5 hours (a week after intensive)
IDR 19,000,000 Jakarta or online
WANT TO GO DEEPER?
Take the work to Bali.
For couples who want a fully immersive experience away from everyday life. The Bali Intensive gives the work the space it deserves.
My pricing vaires based on your location for parity purposes. If you're based outside Indonesia, please view the international pricing here.
CLIENT STORIES
What changes when the work goes deep
Common questions about
the approach
Do I need to know anything about IFS before we start?
Not at all. Most clients come with no prior knowledge. The process is entirely guided and you will feel oriented from the very first session.
Is IFS only for trauma?
No. IFS is effective for a wide range of presenting issues including anxiety, burnout, perfectionism, relationship patterns and identity. It is as much a practice for living as it is a clinical modality.
How is IFS different from CBT or regular talk therapy?
CBT works with thoughts and behaviors. IFS works with the parts underneath them. Where CBT might help you think differently about a pattern, IFS helps you understand and transform the part that is driving it. The change tends to be deeper and more lasting.
Is IFS available online?
Yes. IFS works very well online and is available to clients in Singapore, Kuala Lumpur and across Southeast Asia and worldwide.
READY WHEN YOU ARE
You read this far.
That means something.
A free 15-minute conversation. No commitment, no pressure. Just enough time to feel if this feels right.