Couples · IFS
Why You Keep Having the Same Fight (and How to Finally Stop)
You have had this fight before. You know exactly how it goes. One of you brings something up, the other gets defensive,…
Shabnam Lee · 5 min read
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Ideas from IFS, Relational Life Therapy, Brainspotting and ACT, on burnout, relationships, trauma and motherhood.
Couples · RLT
The 5 Things You Do in a Fight That Make Everything Worse
Most couples come to therapy saying the same thing: "We need to communicate better." And then they tell me what they…
Shabnam Lee · 3 min read
Couples · RLT
Your Relationship Isn’t Dying From a Lack of Love. It’s Dying From This
Most couples I work with don't walk into my therapy space because they stopped loving each other. They walk in because…
Shabnam Lee · 4 min read
ACT · Brainspotting
Beyond the Blues: An Integrative Approach to Depression Therapy That Honors Your Whole Self
Depression therapy works best when it addresses more than just your thoughts. If you've been struggling with persistent…
Shabnam Lee · 13 min read
ACT · Brainspotting
Effective Therapy for Anxiety and Panic Attacks: Finding Your Path to Peace
Anxiety and panic attacks can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re juggling the demands of work, relationships, and personal growth. If you’re…
Shabnam Lee · 9 min read
ACT · Brainspotting
Finding an Anxiety Therapist: A Holistic Approach to Lasting Change
If you’re dealing with anxiety that shows up as constant worry, panic attacks, or that exhausting feeling of never quite being able to settle, you already…
Shabnam Lee · 12 min read
ACT · Brainspotting
How Trauma Lives in the Body and What It Takes to Heal: A Holistic Guide to Trauma Therapy
Trauma lives in the body long after the mind has moved on. If you have ever felt your heart race at a sound that reminds you of something painful, noticed…
Shabnam Lee · 11 min read
IFS · Individuals
Internal Family Systems Therapy: Understanding Your Inner World
Have you ever noticed different voices pulling you in opposite directions? One part of you wants to speak up in that meeting, while another whispers that…
Shabnam Lee · 25 min read
Couples · RLT
Relational Life Therapy: Building Deeper Connections Through Mind, Body, and Nervous System
Life has a way of testing us. Maybe you’re navigating the pressure of demanding work environments while trying to maintain meaningful relationships.…
Shabnam Lee · 18 min read
Mothers · IFS
The Beautiful Chaos of a Mother’s Heart: What Hamnet Gets Right About High-Achieving Mothers
Last night Jessie Buckley won the Oscar for Best Actress. She was crying before she even reached the microphone. She…
Shabnam Lee · 3 min read
IFS · Individuals
The Part of You That Sabotages Your Relationships Isn’t the Enemy: Understanding IFS Therapy
You know that moment when everything’s going well in your relationship, and then suddenly you find yourself picking a fight over something small? Or when…
Shabnam Lee · 15 min read
ACT · Individuals
Understanding ACT Therapy: A Guide to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
You’ve probably heard about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy—or ACT—and wondered what makes it different. Here’s what I want you to know: ACT isn’t about…
Shabnam Lee · 10 min read
Brainspotting · Individuals
When Talk Therapy Isn’t Enough: How Brainspotting Reaches Trauma Your Mind Can’t Access
You’ve been in therapy for months, maybe even years. You’ve talked through your past, analyzed your patterns, gained insight into why you react the way…
Shabnam Lee · 17 min read
RLT
Why We Start Every Couple with an Intensive (And How It Changes Everything)
When couples reach out for therapy, they’re often expecting to book a weekly session. Maybe Thursdays at 6 PM, fitting therapy into the margins of an…
Shabnam Lee · 12 min read
IFS · Individuals
Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Wants to Forget: Why Trauma Healing Needs Somatic Work
You’ve talked about the difficult memories in therapy. You’ve gained insight into your patterns. You understand why you react the way you do. And yet…
Shabnam Lee · 13 min read
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